Buy a Ticket to “Elsewhere”

It really annoys me when educated men and women use the “marriage is between a man and a woman and has been for the last 5,000 years, so why change.” Sure, why change laws. Let’s take away the vote from women because men have written the law for the last 5,000 years. Let’s not mix the races. Let’s follow a book and not change the contents of that book because our life is no different now than it was 2,000 years ago. While we are at, let’s not have any progress at all and live our lives as it was written 5,000 years ago.

These people are idiots. Get with the times. Do they actually think that gay and lesbian people will just disappear from the face of the earth if they are denied the same rights as the rest of the population? These people pretend that they “tolerate” gay people, yet they don’t want to see them or have them in their own “backyard.” 

Let’s not welcome any gays, let’s not welcome any foreigners, let’s not welcome anyone remotely different.

I feel sorry for these narrow minded people. How boring their lives must be. I have lived in many cities, I have lived in many countries, and I have mixed with different groups in this world society. Without that education and without the guts, I would be still living in a small 1,300 year old village and learning about the world and its people from the media. And I think we all know how much the media distorts people and places. 

Don’t believe what you see and what you read. Instead, buy a ticket to Elsewhere and get yourself an education and an understanding of humanity. While you’re at it, take a trip to San Francisco where gay and lesbians don’t hide away like scared rabbits. Get a life and get a heart.

Prop 8: “Black Lesbian” Writer receives Blowback

Appeared today in the LA Times in response to Jasmyne A. Cannick’s Times Op-Ed article.



An unfair attack on white gays

A recent Times Op-Ed article exploits a double standard that says it’s OK for certain groups to openly express bigotry.

By Kevin Naff

November 12, 2008

In all the post-election commentary about California’s passage of Proposition 8, perhaps none was more offensive and wrong than Jasmyne A. Cannick’s Times Op-Ed article, “No-on-8’s white bias.”

Cannick’s piece raises important questions about the politically correct double standards that govern debate of gay rights issues. When white evangelical Christians (or Mormons, for that matter) attack gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender people, the response is loud and harsh: Bigots! Homophobes! Haters! But when black religious leaders attack gays, which is a regular occurrence in many churches, the response is muted because, well, it’s a cultural thing and we white people just wouldn’t understand. Bigotry is bigotry, whether emanating from the pulpits of white churches or black ones.

Cannick writes, “But even I wasn’t inspired to encourage black people to vote against the proposition. … I don’t see why the right to marry should be a priority for me or other black people. Gay marriage? Please. At a time when blacks are still more likely than whites to be pulled over for no reason, more likely to be unemployed than whites, more likely to live at or below the poverty line, I was too busy trying to get black people registered to vote, period; I wasn’t about to focus my attention on what couldn’t help but feel like a secondary issue.”

The argument that many black voters are too preoccupied with more practical matters to think too much about gay marriage is not entirely illegitimate. But it’s an argument for apathy, not a rational or legitimate justification for actively supporting discriminatory laws.

She continues, “The white gay community never successfully communicated to blacks why it should matter to us above everything else.” No one ever suggested that marriage should matter to blacks or anyone else above all other things. All that we suggested was that a tyrannical majority shouldn’t strip away hard-fought rights from a minority group. That is never tolerated for any group in this country — except for gays and lesbians. Cannick also puts the blame back on the dastardly rich white gays for not doing a better job of educating black voters. Yes, gay rights advocates (black and white) need to do a better job of educating voters about our issues, but that doesn’t absolve individuals from their responsibility to educate themselves about the ballot initiatives on which they cast their votes.

Cannick also writes, “Does someone who is homeless or suffering from HIV but has no healthcare, or newly out of prison and unemployed, really benefit from the right to marry someone of the same sex?” The answer is yes. Partners in a legal marriage enjoy a support network with many built-in benefits, such as access to a spouse’s healthcare plan.

Then Cannick’s screed takes another unfortunate turn: “To many blacks, civil rights are grounded in Christianity — not something separate and apart from religion but synonymous with it.”

Of course, when white Christians make such statements, they are derided as bigots. Is Cannick immune from that charge because she happens to be black? I think not. This fight, as Cannick ought to know, has nothing to do with religion. It’s about the civil right of marriage that conveys a host of benefits denied to an entire class of people. Cannick is merely parroting the worst propaganda of the Proposition 8 fight that led voters to erroneously believe their churches would be penalized for refusing to marry same-sex couples.

Perhaps the most egregious passage in Cannick’s opinion is this: “There’s nothing a white gay person can tell me when it comes to how I as a black lesbian should talk to my community about this issue. If and when I choose to, I know how to say what needs to be said.” It would have been helpful for Cannick to share her all-knowing and powerfully influential ideas before Nov. 4. Cannick suggests that the marriage movement is about white gays who are “racist and clueless.” Tell that to the multiple black gay and lesbian couples that have been plaintiffs in marriage lawsuits across the country. The lack of equality under the law for gay families leads to too many destructive consequences to enumerate here.

She concludes by stating, “Black gays are depending on their white counterparts to finally ‘get it.’ … Until then, don’t expect to make any inroads any time soon in the black community on this issue — including with this black lesbian.”

I don’t expect to make inroads with someone so closed-minded as Cannick. But maybe next time, she could define for all the racist and clueless white gays just what the “it” is. We understand perfectly well the sting of discrimination, and I certainly don’t need a lecture from Cannick on that topic.

Cannick’s diatribe aside, it’s not fair or accurate to blame blacks for the outcome in California. There’s plenty of blame to go around. Black voters overwhelmingly supported Proposition 8, but so did white Republicans in Southern California. Voter turnout in the gay Mecca of San Francisco was among the lowest in the state. The “No on 8” campaign didn’t respond quickly or effectively enough to the other side’s misleading attacks. Thanks to encouragement by their church leaders, Mormons pumped more than $20 million into the fight, putting the “No on 8” organizers at a huge disadvantage.

Despite all the bad news, there is a silver lining. Too many gay rights advocates, particularly younger supporters, expect Americans to embrace our cause just because it’s fair. They are finally learning an important lesson: Civil rights struggles aren’t won in 30 years. This fight for full equality is going to take a long time, and many of us won’t be around to enjoy the fruits of the labor.

But make no mistake: Minds are changing, and fast. Just eight years ago, California passed Proposition 22 in a landslide vote — 61.4% to 38.6%. Last week, 48% of voters said no to Proposition 8, a 10% swing in just eight years.

And best of all, voters overwhelmingly elected Barack Obama, who will be an ally in the fight for equality even if he’s not there yet on marriage rights. Obama’s views on the subject are far more progressive than Cannick’s. Indeed, change is coming; it’s too bad Cannick can’t see it.

Kevin Naff is editor of the Washington Blade, the nation’s oldest newspaper that focuses on gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender issues.

Business Support for Prop 8

They voted Yes on Prop 8 with their dollars. Now the people can decide whether to spend money on these bigots:
Ag West Distributing Co

Alpasina Insurance Services
Unable to locate info

American Build & Design, Inc

American Focus
Alhambra, CA

Automated Environments

Bambrick & Associates
Anaheim, CA

Best Tire and Automotive
San Pedro, CA

Bluefields Creative

Rich Bott-Bott Radio Network
Fresno/Modesto/Merced 99.9FM

Bradley L. Quick Insurance Agency
Escondido, CA

Briden Wilson Farm
Arbuckle, CA

Buildex Inc.
Granite Bay, CA

Busy Little Bee Daycare
San Jose, CA

CC Layne & Sons Inc
Unable to locate info

Carter Construction Company (Texas based)

Chiropractic Family Health Center
El Cajon, CA

Classic Clean, Inc.
Los Gatos, CA

Community West Mortgage
Scotts Valley, CA

Cornerstone Custom Construction
Unable to locate info

Cottonwood Quilting

Culp Diversified Properties
Red Bluff, CA

Curry Copy Center of Hemet

Cyrus Tree Service

David Smalley MD
Riverside, CA

Design Electric
Pleasanton, CA

Direct to You Mobile Dentistry
Murrieta, CA

Duncan’s Auto Sales
Corning, CA

Ebmeyer Charter and Tour

Salinas, CA

Environmental Geology Services

Esthetique Dental Center
Auburn, CA (Wisconsin based)

Fahillion Technology Consultants
San Luis Obispo, CA

Fetal Diagnostic Center
Mission Viejo, CA

The Fire & Cop Shop
Moreno Valley, CA

First Data Cardservice
Laguna Beach, CA

First Experiences Preschool
Bakersfield, CA

First Security Home Loans
Poway, CA

GFBB Benefits and Insurance
Roseville, CA

Golden Door Press
Santa Rosa, CA

Guy Strohmeiers Auto Center
Lakeport, CA

Harmonious Scents

Haws, Record & Magnusson, Attorneys at Law
Santa Barbara, CA

Home Instead Senior Care

Honda Car Repair
Tracy, CA

I Wannabe Costumes
West Sacramento, CA

Images by Aida
Sherman Oaks, CA

Riverside, CA
Even ads on website for protect marriage

Inspired Stylus Writing and Copyediting
affiliated with iNetMatrix
Riverside, CA

Jason’s Glass Tint
San Clemente, CA

Justin A. March Associates
El Cajon, CA

Kerr Real Estate Advisors
Fair Oaks, CA

Knapp Financial
Calabasas, CA

Lampstand Studios (Colorado based)

Land Resource Investments (Nevada based)

The Law Office of H. Craig Miller
Roseville, CA

Law Offices of Kimber B. Goddard
Sacramento, CA

Lewis Appliance Repair and Installation
Los Banos, CA

Lion’s Roar Media
Victorville, CA

Maximum Marketing Inc
Bakersfield, CA

MJ Baxter Drilling Company
El Cajon, CA
May be affliliated with M.J.B. Floral Services

San Diego, CA

Napa Valley Engraving
Napa, CA
Encinitas, CA

NorthBay Neonatology Associates

Pacific Coast Auto Body
San Diego, CA

PaperPack, Inc. (Georgia based)

Quietcool, inc
Winchester, CA

RCS Door Service
Salida, CA

Reimer’s Wholesale Nursery
Bakersfield, CA

Reliable Referrals LLC (Wisconsin based)

Resources For Continuing Education, Inc

RF Sweet & Associates Real Estate
Palm Desert, CA

Rickert Cabinetry

Roche Oil, Inc
Tulare, CA

Rockingham Asset Management
Los Angeles, California

RPM Events, Inc.
San Luis Rey, Ca

The Santa Clara Valley Health & Hospital System (SCVHHS) <> 
Santa Clara, CA

Schindler & Schindler Inc
Fountain Valley, CA

Scott McDonald & Assoc.
Scott McDonald is former Marketing Manager for the California D. A.

Senior Helper’s
Fresno, CA

Sheppard & Associates Insurance Agency
Citrus Heights, CA

Sibling Systems
Roseville, CA

Splash! Designworks (Delaware based)
Dover, Delaware

Stubblefield Family Chiropractic
Yuba City, CA

Superior Notary, LLC
Rocklin, CA

Tri-Valley Propac, Inc
Danville, CA

Tropical Sands Vacations
Corona, CA

Valencia Tax Service

Warren Photography
Victorville, CA

The Wellness Advantage (Arizona based)
Scottsdale, AZ

West Coast Commercial Mortgage, Inc
Huntington Beach, CA

White Diamond Jewelers
Canoga Park, CA
Bakersfield, California

MSNBC’s Keith Olbermann’s Special Message on Prop 8

Soot Bull Jeep’s Natural Charcoal BBQ House is Cooking

Soot Bull JeepI’ve been a vegetarian for more years than I can remember and coming from the “If I have to cook it myself why am I paying for the privilege?” school of thought, you might say that my virginal entrance into the doors of the Zagat-rated Soot Bull Jeep’s Natural Charcoal BBQ House would spell disaster.

But minutes after I took my seat, I was told to order Bulgogi (tender thin slices of marinated beef) by one of two attentive waitresses wearing matching navy blue aprons. I sat at one of twelve long tables and watched smoke rise from sweet smelling marinated ribs and steaks which then disappeared into the stainless steel ceiling fans that hung over each table. Sunlight bounced off steel and the warm glow of rust-red faux brick walls with matching red chairs and linoleum floor, made for a cozy setting.

In no time at all I was served Korean OB beer, ten small side dishes (Banchan), and a plate of Bulgogi. I was terrified. I looked around the room at the other diners. They were a mixed crowd of hip young and not so young couples and families, mostly Korean but a few westerners who, like me, had a look of puzzled wonderment on their faces. I took a breath and decided to get stuck in; placing my strips of steak on to the burner, all the while paranoid that everyone in the restaurant was staring at me. I faked a smile and acted cool but inside, memories of my last two attempts at cooking in a restaurant: 1) the evacuation of a pizza restaurant I was working in when I forgot about the pizza I’d left in the oven; 2) the time I set fire to my glass of sambucca, spilled the glass, causing flames to engulf two tables and the corner of the bar.

With that kind of record it made sense for me to hold off on the Chum Churum Sake they served here. It was apparent that the other diners were in fact watching me when a girl from an opposite table coughed profusely then came running over to me to demand I chuck the glass of ice, which I thought was for my beer, onto the grill.

Soot Bull Jeep

As I did this my steak seemed to take on a whole new vitality. I nodded my thank you to the girl when a waitress rushed over with a pair of scissors to cut up my steak for me. I gulped my beer then swallowed my pride to ask the waitress what the large pieces of red lettuce were for. She explained that they were for me to make wraps. NOW I UNDERSTOOD. Once my steak was cooked and I sucked in the air and smelled its sweet and addictive marinade, I happily went about the business of wrap construction.

For the uninitiated: fill a large lettuce leaf or Sang Chu (red leaf lettuce) with a combination of your Banchan. I enjoyed the more traditional Kimchi (fermented chili pepper cabbage) and Shi Geum Chi (seasoned steamed spinach). Then wash it down with spicy Kimchi soup or the clear light Yeolmumul Kimchi (summer green water). The Bulgogi was tender and sweet and combined perfectly with the vegetable dishes.

Try this at home:

Kimchi: 1 head Chinese cabbage cut into ½ inch strips
3 tablespoons salt
6 green onions, chopped
3 garlic cloves, minced
1/2 teaspoon crushed dried hot red chilli
1 teaspoon chopped gingerroot

Soak cabbage over night in a pan of salted water with 1 tablespoon of the salt. Drain water and combine the remainder of the salt, green onions, garlic, chili, and ginger root. Transfer to a concealed container and refrigerate for 1-2 days before using. You can freeze it and it makes about a quart.

THE DETAILS: Soot Bull Jeep – Natural Charcoal BBQ House

3136 W 8th Street
Los Angeles, CA 90005

213. 387.3865

Monday-Sunday. 11AM-11PM